Here we go...

It has been over a decade since I last wrote a blog post and I am both excited and nervous to jump in. It is funny to me that the blog I wrote for was about parenting and sexuality and now, here I am, thinking about and starting a blog post with that same topic again. I went down a rabbit hole hoping to go back and read younger me’s version of parenting and sexuality but the company I wrote for has deleted the blog from the internet…so, for now I will write from a current perspective with the knowledge of my younger self reminding me that I enjoy putting words into the world even when my voice (or hands) shake.

In the past week I have had multiple invitations to think about and explore the way that body autonomy, parenting, and sexuality all interplay and change with time. I am now the parent of a fully adult human. I live alone, I am unpartnered, I am dating (sort of)…my time, body, money, and decision making is my own. I have little effect on the lives of others in my little moment to moment decisions.

This is new to me. I had my child at 19 years old. I got pregnant less than 3 weeks after my 19th birthday. I was barely an autonomous human. I definitely did not know what I was or who I was becoming and I was responsible for another life. We grew up together. It was not always easy (for either of us) or fair to them. I had to learn about my boundaries while trying to lead another being into their own. I came out, first as queer, then as poly, then as non-binary. I struggled with the unfairness it was for my child to navigate these changes in a parent. Within themselves and with society. But we did it. We made it to adult hood. We have circled back, came to each other and chosen to be peers, friends, and family.

This is the introduction. I want to write about the process of relating through choosing. I want to write about body autonomy. I want to write about my work and the many ways that healing happens in relationship to ourselves and others. I want to be brave and vulnerable. If you are interested please join my mailing list. I will not spam you. This will be an occasional musing and list of things myself and people in the community are doing.